Comments for BusinessBackpacker.com http://www.businessbackpacker.com Work From Anywhere & Do What You Love! Wed, 09 May 2012 14:30:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 Comment on Are you an Introvert or an Extrovert? by Brooke Ferguson http://www.businessbackpacker.com/introvert-or-extrovert/#comment-749 Brooke Ferguson Wed, 09 May 2012 14:30:00 +0000 http://www.businessbackpacker.com/?p=3481#comment-749 It's so funny that you wrote this, because I was wondering the same thing myself.  I have two ideas, and would love to know what you think.. One is that as I've gotten older, I feel more comfortable being myself and saying 'No' to things that I would have tried to make myself do before. The second is that I simply don't have as much energy as I used to have.  So it is awesome to go home and relax after a full day of activities.  I'm content at home (or working from home) and I don't have the feeling that I'm missing out on anything else. Do you think it is one of these?  Or, I wonder, since you are an extrovert, if it is easier to be at home more with someone there?? Thoughts?? It’s so funny that you wrote this, because I was wondering the same thing myself.  I have two ideas, and would love to know what you think..

One is that as I’ve gotten older, I feel more comfortable being myself and saying ‘No’ to things that I would have tried to make myself do before.

The second is that I simply don’t have as much energy as I used to have.  So it is awesome to go home and relax after a full day of activities.  I’m content at home (or working from home) and I don’t have the feeling that I’m missing out on anything else.

Do you think it is one of these?  Or, I wonder, since you are an extrovert, if it is easier to be at home more with someone there??

Thoughts??

]]> Comment on So, You’re an Introvert… Now What?!?! by Brooke Ferguson http://www.businessbackpacker.com/introvert/#comment-748 Brooke Ferguson Wed, 09 May 2012 14:23:00 +0000 http://www.businessbackpacker.com/?p=3671#comment-748 Hi Ellen!! In a lot of my reading, authors brought up the fact that oftentimes introverts and extroverts attract.  It is no big surprise, as they can actually balance each other out.  However, a lot of relationships were also under stress, due to taking these attributes personally.  Things like "She doesn't understand that I need alone time"; or "He doesn't get why I always need to be around people and want him to be there".   In most scenarios I read, the advice was the same:  Understand what personality type your mate is, and come up with parameters for your relationship so that both people feel safe and nurtured.    Being an "inny" I know that I need to actually work myself up for outings.  A surprise group of people in my house would throw me off, or having to suddenly be on my game when I had planned to relax is so seriously off-putting that it is like an internal natural disaster!!  Having to dramatically change plans, get ready quickly, or go into a loud environment can all be difficult for introverts.  Having transition time between activities is helpful, as well as knowing up front what the plans are.  Small gatherings are easier than large, and having the ability to duck out early is awesome. All of these are stress-reducers, and can maybe help when you two are setting up your plans or outings together :)  It probably sounds a bit strange, but it is really all about feeling safe, and knowing that the other person you want to spend time with is understanding enough to make a compromise!!  (Which, I already know you are so good at!!) Thanks for commenting :D!! B Hi Ellen!!

In a lot of my reading, authors brought up the fact that oftentimes introverts and extroverts attract.  It is no big surprise, as they can actually balance each other out.  However, a lot of relationships were also under stress, due to taking these attributes personally.  Things like “She doesn’t understand that I need alone time”; or “He doesn’t get why I always need to be around people and want him to be there”.  

In most scenarios I read, the advice was the same:  Understand what personality type your mate is, and come up with parameters for your relationship so that both people feel safe and nurtured.   

Being an “inny” I know that I need to actually work myself up for outings.  A surprise group of people in my house would throw me off, or having to suddenly be on my game when I had planned to relax is so seriously off-putting that it is like an internal natural disaster!!  Having to dramatically change plans, get ready quickly, or go into a loud environment can all be difficult for introverts.  Having transition time between activities is helpful, as well as knowing up front what the plans are.  Small gatherings are easier than large, and having the ability to duck out early is awesome.

All of these are stress-reducers, and can maybe help when you two are setting up your plans or outings together :)  It probably sounds a bit strange, but it is really all about feeling safe, and knowing that the other person you want to spend time with is understanding enough to make a compromise!!  (Which, I already know you are so good at!!)

Thanks for commenting :D !!
B

]]> Comment on Are you an Introvert or an Extrovert? by Ellen Goldberg http://www.businessbackpacker.com/introvert-or-extrovert/#comment-747 Ellen Goldberg Tue, 08 May 2012 02:59:00 +0000 http://www.businessbackpacker.com/?p=3481#comment-747 Brooke, I wonder if there is evidence that people become more introverted with age. I really believe that the older I get, the more I take on certain qualities of introverts. Let's talk about this soon! :) Brooke, I wonder if there is evidence that people become more introverted with age. I really believe that the older I get, the more I take on certain qualities of introverts. Let’s talk about this soon! :)

]]> Comment on So, You’re an Introvert… Now What?!?! by Ellen Goldberg http://www.businessbackpacker.com/introvert/#comment-746 Ellen Goldberg Tue, 08 May 2012 02:52:00 +0000 http://www.businessbackpacker.com/?p=3671#comment-746 Brooke, I really like this post. It makes me understand Dan better. He i is a total introvert, and I am an extrovert. I used to think that something was wrong with me that I never wanted to be alone or that I don't love having an office because it's kind of lonely. I liked the article about Caring for Your Introvert too. Very good breakdown of why Dan needs so much alone time. Thanks for inspiring me as always! Hugs, Ellen Brooke, I really like this post. It makes me understand Dan better. He i is a total introvert, and I am an extrovert. I used to think that something was wrong with me that I never wanted to be alone or that I don’t love having an office because it’s kind of lonely. I liked the article about Caring for Your Introvert too. Very good breakdown of why Dan needs so much alone time. Thanks for inspiring me as always! Hugs, Ellen

]]> Comment on Find Your Spark, and Ignite the Fire Within! by Daniel Tay http://www.businessbackpacker.com/find-your-spark-and-ignite-the-fire-within/#comment-745 Daniel Tay Mon, 07 May 2012 10:01:00 +0000 http://www.businessbackpacker.com/?p=1896#comment-745 Couldn't agree more about not giving up your passions. I'm a firm believer in that too, and there are so many ways that we can redefine our lives in order to pursue our passions. Couldn’t agree more about not giving up your passions. I’m a firm believer in that too, and there are so many ways that we can redefine our lives in order to pursue our passions.

]]> Comment on How to Build Your Personal Legacy and Share it With the World by Brooke Ferguson http://www.businessbackpacker.com/how-to-build-your-personal-legacy-and-share-it-with-the-world/#comment-741 Brooke Ferguson Thu, 12 Apr 2012 09:53:00 +0000 http://www.businessbackpacker.com/?p=3572#comment-741 Thanks, Suzi!!  I really thought the idea of a living legacy was more inspiring.  It means we have something to give, and we can get to work on it!  I love your writing, too :0)  How are you?? Thanks, Suzi!!  I really thought the idea of a living legacy was more inspiring.  It means we have something to give, and we can get to work on it!  I love your writing, too :0)  How are you??

]]> Comment on How to Build Your Personal Legacy and Share it With the World by Suzi http://www.businessbackpacker.com/how-to-build-your-personal-legacy-and-share-it-with-the-world/#comment-740 Suzi Mon, 09 Apr 2012 18:22:00 +0000 http://www.businessbackpacker.com/?p=3572#comment-740 Crafting a living legacy, love it.  Love your writing. Crafting a living legacy, love it.  Love your writing.

]]> Comment on How to Build Your Personal Legacy and Share it With the World by Brooke Ferguson http://www.businessbackpacker.com/how-to-build-your-personal-legacy-and-share-it-with-the-world/#comment-739 Brooke Ferguson Mon, 09 Apr 2012 14:55:00 +0000 http://www.businessbackpacker.com/?p=3572#comment-739 LOL.  I am steppin'!  Thanks for your inspiration & encouragement :) LOL.  I am steppin’!  Thanks for your inspiration & encouragement :)

]]> Comment on How to Build Your Personal Legacy and Share it With the World by Chris Guillebeau http://www.businessbackpacker.com/how-to-build-your-personal-legacy-and-share-it-with-the-world/#comment-738 Chris Guillebeau Mon, 09 Apr 2012 03:05:00 +0000 http://www.businessbackpacker.com/?p=3572#comment-738 Step it up, byatch!  Brooke, you're a rockstar. Thanks so much for sharing this.  Step it up, byatch! 

Brooke, you’re a rockstar. Thanks so much for sharing this. 

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