1. Take Responsibility for Yourself…without resentment.
2. Look at what you Already Have. Let go of the addiction to “What’s Next”.
3. Count Your Blessings. Make mental lists of how lucky or fortunate you already are.  Keep a gratitude journal.  When you are in a funk, find things you like… “I like that tree.  I like that flower.  That dog looks nice.”
4. Surround yourself with Positive People. If you find you are amidst others where the conversation is headed south, turn it around.  Make pacts with people to “stay up” and keep eachother going.
5. Know yourself and your grumpy times and Practice your Positive Attitude then! I’m super grumpy in the morning.  I have to do all I can to redirect my thoughts and stay positive.  After lunchtime, I’m fine, but my best practice takes place in the morning when I’m being Seniorita Grumpy Pants.
6. Look for what people ARE DOING instead of what they are NOT DOING. It’s easy to get off track by taking the good stuff for granted.  I did this in my last relationship…and, well, it’s over now.  Realize everyone else is going through their own struggle of trying to avoid suffering and achieve happiness and let’s all give eachother a break.
7. Learn when to Do Something… or Let it Go. Shantideva says, if we face a difficulty, “we should examine the nature of the problem itself.  If we find that there exists the possibility we could solve it… there is no need for anxiety.  If, on the other hand, we find that the nature of the problem admits to no solution, there is no point in worrying about it.  If nothing can change the situation, worrying only makes it worse.”  I’m pretty sure if I can master this one, I can rule the world… or something.
8. Realize when we are putting Our Expectations on other people or situations and STOP DOING IT. Bad Dog.  Go lie down.
9. Plan something fun. Maybe you’re sweating the small stuff because you are bored.  The brain likes to be active and sometimes it works against us.  Get crazy and plan an adventure.  Get excited about something and move back towards anticipation and enthusiasm.
10. Get outside your head and Help Others. It’s good to remember other people have problems, too.  Many have problems much worse than ours.  Get to giving and find a feel-good project that brings you and others joy.  Sometimes just moving about and interacting with others is enough to change your perspective.

Remember, Practice makes Perfect, so if you find yourself slipping into a Negative Nancy, just try to snap back as soon as possible to Positive Patty!  It’s your job in this lifetime to enjoy living your life as much as possible, so Reclaim Your Happiness Today !

Thomas More published this book in 1516. Remarkably, he has produced such a timeless piece of work that we can learn even today from the society that he describes in Utopia (or, no-place). Because his ideas are outside of the box and very much in alignment with many factors I agree with wholeheartedly, I am going to describe briefly my favorite parts of Utopia….

Utopia

More’s story begins when he and his friend Peter come across the most interesting worldly character: Raphael Nonsenso. After engaging in pleasantries, Raphael begins to go into a long account about his travels and experiences all around the world. Naturally, he had seen many cultures and could assimilate what worked in various societies and what did not. Many societies were based on money, power, and greed and because of this he saw a huge dichotomy between the rich and the poor. Countries focused on growing and taking over land and vast territories by force creating wars, death and economic hardship. These societies had many faults—all of them but one: Utopia.

Raphael had spent years in Utopia after discovering it. It was, in fact, the only sustainable culture and community he had ever seen. Not only were the people well educated and advanced, but they loved learning and seemed to be the happiest people he had ever encountered. How could a society be so fulfilled and the people so incredibly happy? Here are some of their secrets:

• Utopia functions as a whole—all goods and services are made and distributed freely to families as needed.
• Their society and GDP was not compromised by having a fashion or entertainment industries.
• Land is equally distributed & maintained. There is no ‘cost’ for property, it is evenly distributed in small villages or compounds.
• Money is unnecessary because the town’s labor all goes towards the common good of providing ONLY what is necessary.
• Because less consumables are needed, there is less work that the overall population must do. (Much of this labor is cut out because they do not need to mass produce clothing, electronics, or such things.)

“They never force people to work unnecessarily, for the main purpose of their whole economy is to give each person as much time free from physical drudgery as the needs of the community will allow, so that he can cultivate his mind—which they regard as the secret of a happy life” (p. 59).

• The people are taught detachment when it comes to material goods and signs of wealth. In fact, it is instead a sign of something dreadful or even childish to display such garishness. Toilets are made of solid gold and those that have broken the law and become slaves wear huge chains of gold and gold jewelry. Sometimes children will wear gemstones but as they grow older they realize these are childish and give them away to the ‘babies’.
• Utopians believe in taking care of oneself and creating your own happiness. They consider it their right to enjoy life and seek out pleasure (as long as it does not hurt them or anyone else).

  Since their basic needs are taken care of (food, shelter, water, community) one can focus more on serving others.

“Nobody owns anything, but everyone is rich—for what greater wealth can there be than cheerfulness, peace of mind, and freedom from anxiety?” (p. 110).

The location of Utopia is unknown, or else I would surely try to find it. But, if you decide to take on some of the timeless lessons displayed in this book, such as: not putting money towards fashion or entertainment, letting go of some of your personal property, working towards the common good of society, reducing your spending thereby reducing your work, detaching from material goods and signs of wealth, cultivating joy, pleasure and happiness, and serving others—my guess is that you may find yourself in Utopia when you are not even looking for it.