What You Really Want Scares The Shit Out of You

Let’s be honest with each other for just a minute.  Deep down, you know what you really want.  You have burning desires, fantasies, you spend time daydreaming about it.  But, after you think about what you want, two things happen:

1. You talk yourself out of all of the ways it could possibly become a reality, and

2. If all of the excuses went away and you had the perfect opportunity to do it -RIGHT NOW- It would Scare the Living Crap out of You.

This is good.  This means that it (whatever it is) is something Really Big.  It means that you are connected with it So Deeply that you have extreme emotions about it.  And what does this mean?

It means You Have to Do It!!

Let’s take me, for example.  There were things that I always just knew I wanted to do.

I knew I wanted to travel.

I wanted to start my own business.

I wanted to get my Dive Masters.

And, I really, really wanted at some point to publish a book.

Now, for me, even though I knew I wanted these things, it took quite some time to make my move.  I thought (wrongly) that there would be a “right time” or “perfect opportunity” or “great timing” to do any number of these things.  What I realized after quite some time is this:

There is No Such Thing as the Perfect Time to Start Your Goal.

The problem then, my friends, is that you might be sitting around waiting to start what you really want to do…



And, well, to be nice… this is bad.

What most of this blog, my consulting work, and my video course encourage you all to do is to take action now.

It will feel scary.  You will feel like you are not ready.  You will most likely mess something up or feel like an idiot… but, to all of that I have to say..

So what.

That is what the rest of us have had to do!  You might as well realize that you have to feel like an idiot and just get it over with now! :)

Here is the reason why I am writing this:

I’ve pretty much done everything on my bucket list.  And, recently, I got especially bugged because I haven’t made any effort to get a book published.  I’ve done a lot of the “Safe Stuff”.  Safe stuff looks like this:

  • Internet research
  • Poking around in the bookstore
  • Whittling away on it like a craft project that will never be finished

But then it hit me that even with all of my “effort” I still had no idea what the real process was of writing, outlining, submitting a book offer, and getting published.  So, I found an agent online and sent an email with a book description I had written many months before.

Here is the Funny Part:

They loved it.  They wanted to hear more.  They wanted a formal book proposal and three sample chapters straight away.

You might think that I jumped for joy and screamed from the mountain tops?

No.  I freaked out, and went and hid in a hole like an ostrich.  Because it scared the shit out of me.

This, I must say, is the weirdest thing about being human.  We have goals, ideas, visions, and dreams.  We want them to happen, we really do… but sometimes just before it could really happen, we have the moment, you know the one?


We have a momentary freak out.

Have you ever had this happen too?

If I was some kind of psychological expert, I’m sure I’d come up with a better name for it than that, but anyway, the truth is that it happens, so we might as well just admit that it does.

After I decided not to be an ostrich anymore (and after another email from the agency), I sat down and finished the entire proposal in one afternoon.  A couple of days later, I sent it.  I have no idea what will happen, and I am feeling like a teenager waiting for my date to pick me up, but, something is happening anyway, which is better than nothing.


So, back to you, reader, what is one of your BIG ONES that you want but have been quietly putting off for a number of days/ months / years?  I want the real scary ones, and I want you to put it in the comments below!!

(Now, because not doing it would be like putting it off even further, and I know you don’t want to do that!!)


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  1. What I truly want that I have been putting off?

    I have always wanted to become a social entrepreneur. When people would ask what could I do if money was not an option, it was to be a philanthropist.

    I want to travel all over the world, mainly underdeveloped countries and make a difference. I have always had a love for fashion, beauty & interior design. I want to collaborate with other artisans in these third world countries who design beautiful things from natural sustainable resources, set up workshops to assist them with their craft, giving them fair wages and assist in the marketing efforts of branding and selling their products worldwide. Maybe even helping them start their own businesses, or rebuild their communities, whichever.

    I want to know these amazing people, collaborate with them and learn from them. I want to immerse myself in their culture while I’m there. I also want to go on adventures with them, I want us to learn from each other.

    What has prevented me from doing this?

    Not knowing where to begin, not having any money, not knowing how to design or create beautiful things myself, not feeling like I could be of real value, not knowing anyone personally who was doing this exact same thing & not being able to share my dream with others I knew. I only reached out to one particular social company like this and I never got a reply back. So in time I just forgot about it I guess, I went back to my mediocre life, pretending I was happy with my job & the relationship I was in.

    I think for the most part it was not having the support, not knowing how important it was to surround yourself with other like minded people and a support group. I’m learning the importance of this now.

    Thanks for this post, it’s got me to thinking, and I can’t wait to join your video program. I’m excited to know you Brooke and I’m waiting to hear back about that book proposal!


  2. Great piece. Well done on sending your samples away. Hopefully it all works out. I think I would like to own my own business but have no idea what it would be. I must get working on it!

  3. I’ve just managed to get into contact with a woman in publishing who will look at my book and chat to me about this, that and the other! Ive been redrafting my book in complete panic for the last week and I’ll read a bit, think its great, read another bit and want to put my face through my laptop screen!
    I’m absoloutly terrified, I was presented with her email address today and I’ve been shaking for the past hour as I go over the book and tell myself ‘this is shit.’ I don’t even know the lady – she looks lovely but it still means she has an opinion! – but all I can see in my head is her telling me its rubbish, hide it away in ‘my documents’ and don’t go near it again!!
    Buuuuuut! After reading this, I’m just going to grit my teeth and do it, if they don’t like it, so what? right? Oh dear, wish me luck!

  4. I always want to be a backpacker. travel around the world. see another part of world, another culture, meet new peoples & work with them…i always have idea in my mind to get out from my job, do traveling without fear but in the other hands i have responsibility to my family. must responsible for my parents & young brother…
    wish i can make my dream come true soon..hope God will lead me to that way, like you can make your dream happen :)

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